1. What is your definition of friends?
2. Do you make friends with others based on how they look?
3. What evokes you to talk to other people before knowing them in the first place?
4. Do you often make friends with others for your own benefit? If yes, will you blacklist/ lower your friends’ importance on your list of friends when he/she refused to do what you ask? Or vice versa, where if they offer more, you will tempt to treat them better?
5. What is the first, top requirement that all your friends need to have in order to become your friend?
6. What kinds of people have the first priority to become your friend?
Part 2:
1.What is your definition of friends?
Friend is someone who is willing to share their happiness and sorrow with me, and also willing to listen to my own.
2. Do you make friends with others based on how they look?
To be honest, yes. Because if I don’t know someone, I can only know them by how they look. If they look comfortable to me, then is easier to talk to them and be able conform into the relationship.
3.What evokes you to talk to other people before knowing them in the first place?
Curiosity and I like to meet people. So I can just walk up to them and talk to anyone, is part of my social skill.
4.Do you often make friends with others for your own benefit? If yes, will you blacklist/ lower your friends’ importance on your list of friends when he/she refused to do what you ask? Or vice versa, where if they offer more, you will tempt to treat them better?
Not really. I respect others and if they don’t want to do it, I respect their choice. I won’t get mad or treat them differently just because they don’t want to do something.
5.What is the first, top requirement that all your friends need to have in order to become your friend?
In order to be my friends, I expect them to know me well enough.
6.What kinds of people have the first priority to become your friend?
Someone who is nice and has similar personality as me.
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1.What is your definition of friends?
Friends are someone who has the same “channel” as me, such as similar interests and personality. Also is someone who cares or look out for each other.
2.Do you make friends with others based on how they look?
Yes, because when you don’t know someone, you must depend on how they look in order to form relationships with them.
3.What evokes you to talk to other people before knowing them in the first place?
Before knowing them, I based my intuition to talk to the others. Often times I based on people’s first impressions, and their actions. People usually are friendly and polite when you first met them, so is easy to just talk to them and get to know each other.
4.Do you often make friends with others for your own benefit? If yes, will you blacklist/ lower your friends’ importance on your list of friends when he/she refused to do what you ask? Or vice versa, where if they offer more, you will tempt to treat them better?
No, at some level everybody is taking benefits from their friends to make themselves happy and I am totally aware of this. But if I call them my “friends”, then I will just accept who they are. If I get mad, it sounds like I treat them as “tools”, and not human. I respect my friends, and no matter what they do or how they act, unless is something very serious and big, I won’t get disappointed or mad or even lower their importance on my list. I totally respect my friends and their personality, and I know them from who they really are so no surprise or higher expectations on my friends.
5.What is the first, top requirement that all your friends need to have in order to become your friend?
I think all my friends needs to have similar type of upbringing from their parents. Like basic manners and respect for each others. For me, it is important that they have a high sense of moral, and act “normally”. Or else, it is hard to get along with others who has totally different upbringing from some other culture that I am not familiar with.
6.What kinds of people have the first priority to become your friend?
Talkative and friendly people.
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1.What is your definition of friends?
My definition of friends is someone who will always be there when you need them.
2. Do you make friends with others based on how they look?
Yes and No. If you meant how they dress up themselves, then no. But if you are talking about how they look in terms of the first impression that they offer to the other, then yes. Because meeting strangers is difficult to break the wall into conversations, so it is extremely important that the person that you are talking to makes you comfortable.
3. What evokes you to talk to other people before knowing them in the first place?
I depend on the situation. If you are talking about random strangers on the street, then is easy to talk to them because you will not see them again. But if you are talking about forming a relationship with that person, then I will talk to them based on how I think of that person although I am often not the one who talk to the others first.
4. Do you often make friends with others for your own benefit? If yes, will you blacklist/ lower your friends’ importance on your list of friends when he/she refused to do what you ask? Or vice versa, where if they offer more, you will tempt to treat them better?
Yes. Making friends with others will lead you to have expectations on others. I guess this is the basic for relationships. If someone who is very nice and they are willing to give to make you happy, of course you will treat that person better than the one who does not put too much attention on you. I think in friends, there are different levels and the one that you are willing to offer to him/her and vice versa will be your best friend. Talking about benefits, we are benefiting each other, but not in a way that I am “using” them.
5. What is the first, top requirement that all your friends need to have in order to become your friend?
Friendly and smart with common sense, so they will understand what I am talking about with the same pace as me.
7.What kinds of people have the first priority to become your friend?
Talkative, funny, and nice.
Part 3:
Looking at the answers from the three interviews, I am not surprise that most people look for different things from the others in specific. However, what is interesting is that out of all the interviews from three people, they are all looking for someone to build their identity with them. It almost seems as forming a relationship with people that you don’t know transforming to the next stage of becoming acquaintance is to share similar identity of each other to bond. This helps me in terms of focusing on my research question, “What is the primary factor do people concern about between interpersonal relationships of becoming acquaintances?” because the interview shows that the primary factor that most people are concern about is similarity on each other. It could be a tiny little thing about that person in terms of the first impressions that others offer, but throughout the interviews it shows people often find things to relate to the others before they bond to form a relationship. Such as one interview saying his friends need to have the “same channel” as him, this totally proves the importance of sharing commonalities among each other between interpersonal relationships. As talking about any sort of relationships, people always seek for things to relate to the others before having a relationship showing the needs of others to form our own identity.
Part 4:
I choose people to be my friends based on their appearance.
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